everyone can relate to the aching feeling your heart gets after a break up. it's one of the worst feelings in the world, but it won't kill you. you're supposed to fall in love and fall out of love a couple times in your life, it's what makes finding the right one worth it.
i am currently going through a heartbreak. actually, i've been going through this break up for a while now but it finally all came to an end. i'm struggling even writing this because i really thought this was going to be it for me, i was going to marry moto and live our lives the best we could. it's not until after we broke up that i realized he wasn't the one for me, my mind was blinded by love - so cliche, but it's true - and i wasn't seeing the guy everyone else was. if your family and friends are begging you to leave the guy you're with, he's probably not the right guy for you. when everyone around you can see the reason you love your partner and they encourage the relationship, that's healthy. i wasn't in a healthy relationship and i kept saying to myself 'it's going to get better' over and over again. reality is, it never did and it never was going to. i was holding on to hope that someone was going to change for me and i didn't want to realize that what i saw was what i got.
so, i got some words of wisdom from the last place i ever thought i'd learn anything from, a reality show. girls are always searching for closure and the thing we don't realize is that closure doesn't mean going to your ex and talking to him one last time or anything of that sort. closure is between you and yourself. so this show pretty much said to write a letter to your ex, get out everything you have inside of you; your feelings, the pain, the happiness, then either tie it to a balloon and let it go, or burn the letter. when you let go of everything you had, you're making room for happiness to come in.
i'm going to try that because i do feel like i have a lot held in and i just want to let everything go and start something new. if any of you are going through a break up or have advice, feel free to share with me because i can sure use it.
Oh, Elle, I'm so sorry you're hurting. Break ups are so so so awful. My mom always says break ups are like deaths because the one person you want to talk to, you can't.
ReplyDeleteI don't really have much advice. Feel what you feel, let it all happen. Don't feel ashamed or like you're bringing anyone down and don't try to stop certain feelings. Just allow yourself to be sad for a while.
Good luck love. Let me know if I can do anything.